Remember that high school formal where so much trouble went into getting ready for the event? You shopped for and bought a dress or rented a tuxedo. Went to the salon to have your hair blown out, styled or trimmed. Got a mani/pedi. Picked out a corsage or boutonniere with great care. And then the evening arrived, and the event just didn’t measure up to all the preparation. You had a good time but honestly, it was a bit disappointing and it seemed as though there sure was a lot of fuss and expense for an evening that was just another night.
That was the opposite experience of my daughter’s wedding. The months of planning, attention to every last detail, shopping for the dress, silly expenses, menu minutiae, anguishing over what I would wear and dilemmas over seating charts all culminated in the most magical, perfect evening. I’m so glad my husband wore that suit and the tie I picked for him. I’m happy we chose the Shrimp & Grits a-ya-ya. I’m thrilled that the girls who stood with Kate adored the gifts that we selected for them. But most of all, I absolutely love that my beautiful, precious girl walked down an aisle of super soft sand and married her sweetheart in front of a gorgeous Florida sunset. It was her dream come true.
Of course, after such an all-consuming event there’s bound to be some let down. It’s a bittersweet feeling to come home from our trip and see the last things my daughter worked on in preparation for her wedding. (If you don’t know, she calligraphed all of her wedding invitations, save-the-dates, and programs; every item that involved writing bore her personal stamp, all the way down to the “thank you” card on each favor. You can see her beautiful work here.) Additionally, there is the realization that she will never again enter our home as merely our child for now she also belongs to another family. Her own family unit has been created. And let’s be honest, all the planning leading up to THE WEDDING is nothing compared to the work that will go into THE MARRIAGE. The real fun begins now but so does the true attention to detail. I shared some of my marital advice for Jake & Kate in my last post but my husband pointed out that I’d left off one very important thought. Shared faith is an essential facet of a successful marriage. I don’t know that I’d be standing here today with 27 years of marriage to our credit without God’s presence at the core. My daughter and her beau are starting there too and I know they will be blessed. It was a beautiful fairy tale wedding but their true life’s history is what will be remembered.
I’m back. I’m cooking. Here come the holidays. Thanks for reading along.
Special shout-out to our phenomenal wedding planner Heather Archdeacon Williams, whom I credit with allowing us to keep our sanity.